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Healthy Relationships

Think about all of your different relationships

As we grow up, we develop relationships with lots of different people including close friends, a boyfriend or girlfriend and groups of friends from school or where we live.

Healthy relationships are about respecting each other. But things can go wrong and people might try to use you or force you to do something you don’t want to do.

You should never feel scared, intimidated or controlled in any of the relationships you have.

Remember, in a healthy relationship, you should:

  • Feel safe and respected
  • Feel comfortable being yourself
  • Not feel controlled by someone else
  • Not feel threatened or emotionally hurt by someone else

Abusive relationships

Abusive relationships can happen to adults, children and young people in mixed or same-sex relationships. Abusive behaviour can be:

  • Physical (hitting, kicking, slapping)
  • Emotional (humiliating you or putting you down)
  • Sexual (forcing you to do sexual acts you don’t want to do)

Some examples of abusive behaviour are:

  • Extreme jealousy
  • Angry when you want to spend time with your friends
  • Isolating you from friends and family
  • Trying to control your life including how you dress, who you hang out with and what you say
  • Humiliating you or putting you down
  • Threatening to harm you or to harm themselves if you leave them
  • Demanding to know where you are all of the time
  • Threatening you if you don’t reply to their messages quickly enough
  • Drinking too much alcohol or using drugs
  • Explosive anger
  • Using force during an argument
  • Blaming others for his / her problems or feelings
  • Being verbally abusive
  • Threatening behaviour towards others including your friends
  • Pressuring you to send sexual texts or sexy images of yourself

If you are worried about an abusive relationship, you should tell an adult you trust so that they can help you.

Help and Advice

National Domestic Violence Helpline

The Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline, run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge, is a national service for women experiencing domestic violence, their family, friends, colleagues and others calling on their behalf.

0808 2000 247

The Men’s Advice Line

Men’s Advice Line: confidential helpline for men experiencing domestic violence from a partner or ex-partner (or from other family members).

0808 801 0327

www.mensadviceline.org.uk

respect Phoneline

A confidential and anonymous helpline for anyone concerned about their violence and/or abuse towards a partner or ex-partner

0808 802 4040

www.respectphoneline.org.uk

Disrespect Nobody

A site for young people providing information about domestic abuse in teenage relationships.

www.disrespectnobody.co.uk

Broken Rainbow

Provides support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people experiencing domestic abuse. It also runs a helpline for anyone experiencing homophobic, transphobic or abuse within a same sex relationship.

0800 999 5428

www.brokenrainbow.org.uk

ChildLine

A free 24-hour counselling service for children and young people up to their 19th birthday in the UK provided by the NSPCC. Calls are free and confidential.

0800 1111

www.childline.org.uk

Rape Crisis

How to get help if you’ve experienced rape, child sexual abuse and/or any other kind of sexual violence and details of your nearest Rape Crisis services; information for friends, partners, family and other people supporting a sexual violence survivor; information about sexual violence for survivors, students, journalists and others.

0808 802 9999

http://rapecrisis.org.uk

The Hideout

Women’s Aid have created this space to help children and young people understand domestic abuse, and how to take positive action if it’s happening to you.

www.thehideout.org.uk

Raise a Flag

Hampshire Police and Crime Commissioner have created the Raise a Flag campaign to help people identify unhealthy relationships and provides support if you are concerned that you or someone you know is in an unhealthy relationship.

http://www.hampshire-pcc.gov.uk/flag